Monday, August 02, 2010

"A woman who cannot be ugly is not beautiful" - Karl Kraus


You want to be the best mother to your child. The best wife. The best homemaker. The best lawyer. The best daughter. The best friend. The best in everything. But you’re just human. With no superpowers. You bleed. You fall sick. You get tired. You break down. You fail.

Which is why it is important to accept the fact that you’re just human. You don’t have to strive to be the best at everything all the time. You have to embrace your flaws. You are worthy of appreciation. You need help. You deserve your break. You have to learn to say no. You don’t have to be a superwoman. You’re just human. Ordinary, flawed human.


It would not kill you to ignore the mess on the table. The laundry can wait. You don’t have to clean the house everyday. Take a break from waking up at wee hours in the morning just to do ironing. Don't feel guilty about taking some time off work. Take good care of your health. Refuse your good for nothing colleague when he tries to push you to do unnecessary work. Learn to prioritize. Ask people around you for help. Accept help when offered. Stop trying to please everybody. That little birthday party of your friend's won't fail without you. Beds don't have to be made every day. Remember to take some time for yourself. Remind yourself that you don't have to be the best litigator in town, the perfect trophy wife, the supermom, at all times. Remember, you're just human. Ordinary, flawed human.

Note to self.

16 comments:

AyinEmran said...

Thanks bebeh, kadang-kadang mcm alter ego jugak nak cabar diri sendiri boleh buat sume bende.

Thanks for the reminder, :)

Shafini Mustafha said...

Tapi rasa memang nak buat semua benda kan? ironing, laundry, pinggan yang dua biji aje dalam sinki pun rasa kena basuh jam-jam tu juga..haish..

kiss to Hadi..mmuah.

Marliza Radzi said...

Ayin: Self reminder :)

Honey: Sebab kita rimas kalau tak buat kan?

HiDEr said...

its true... kita tak boleh buat semua kan. Kadang2 kita rasa mcm boleh jadi superwoman tapi sebenarnya superwoman pun perlukan rehat... :D

Marliza Radzi said...

Hider: Sebab sebenarnya there's no such thing as superwoman. Kan?

sYana said...

dah berhenti 'cuba' menjadi superwoman.

lebih bertenang. pinggan can always wait!

:)

Imparfait Saint said...

You know Am...ever since being a mom, I don't mind being ordinary/average lawyer & friend. But I do want to be the best mum to my kid (at least he thinks I'm the best). How motherhood changes a person...

baini said...

well said marliza!..sangat comforting your entry this time,knowing that other new mums feels exactly the same as me,:)

Marliza Radzi said...

Syana: Itulah, kalau dah boleh adjust & terima keadaan, mesti lebih bertenang.

Jas: Prioritize, kan?

Baini: Rasanya perasaan yang semua ibu rasa :)

fieza said...

Yup. Agreed! Take a break dear... We learn from mistakes and don't push yourself too much. Sekali sekala minta hubby tolong buatkan segalanya, apa salah nya? heheh

nor'aini said...

tq for this beautifull post

~Sasha Farina~ said...

thanks for the reminder.. even after 10 yrs of motherhood.. i still forget the little stuff.

yunayuni said...

hey there :) nice blog you have here. makes me really excited to see my baby too.

keep up the good writing ;) unlike me, dah lama tak update blog! hehe.

Marliza Radzi said...

nor'aini: my pleasure!

sis sasha: lamanya 10 tahun! kagum. saya belumpun 3 bulan :D

yunayuni: thanks for dropping by!

lawyer mom said...

thanks marliza for such a wonderful reminder...my precious now in his 7th month of age, i do struggle to be the best mother best wife best homemaker best daughter best employee best friend and tiredness has been my companion ever since...nevertheless,i regain all my strength the moment i stare his sweet innocent face..

Anonymous said...

thanks.. that really helps. i wish he read this. or understand perhaps.