“If evolution really works, how come mothers have only two hands?” - Milton Berl
Saw this on Parents Uncensored (one of the many parenting pages I subscribe to on Facebook) and was reminded to a scene from the novel Harvesting the Heart by Jodi Picoult; of a female customer who came into the café the protagonist works at and changed her baby’s diaper on the table while ordering her breakfast. The protagonist thought the woman looked like she had 4 hands, very superhero-like. But I cringed when I read it and all I could think of was, why did she change her baby on a table at a public restaurant? I couldn’t fathom it.
I agree with the author of the above article, Nicole Fabian-Weber; she wrote: “Like most women, after I became a mom, I became a lot less judgmental about the things I had seen other moms do in the past. Wipe boogers off of their kids' noses with their bare hands. Smell their baby's butts in public. Whatever. I'm now quite aware that while motherhood is the most amazing thing, it's far from glamorous. But, despite my affinity and sympathy for mamas, and how hard their jobs are at times, I do think there's a line. And plopping your kid on a restaurant table and changing their diaper crosses that line.”
Honestly, I’ve never seen anyone doing that where I live, but apparently it’s a norm in some other parts of the world? I don’t know. My son is almost 3 and never in his life had I ever thought of doing that. I think it’s pretty disrespectful to the other patrons. Isn’t there a baby room or toilet nearby? The backseat of your own car? Or worse case scenarios, on the chair instead of the table? The table is where you put the food, people. Like Nicole has aptly pointed out, “As hard as it may be for us moms to see sometimes, there are other people in the world. People without kids. People who really would rather not look at your child's naked bottom while they're eating.”
I read the comments and some mothers are OK with it; they think it’s the restaurant’s fault for not having a proper changing table for babies. Some was trying to compare it to breastfeeding in public which I don’t see the resemblance to. Breastfeeding in public is basically eating out, which if done discreetly, will not cause any discomfort to anybody else (though I’ve never done it in a restaurant either! Penyegan sungguh!)
If you think it’s cool to plop your kid on a restaurant table and change their diaper, then it’s up to you. I’m a firm believer of the mantra, “your kids, your choice”, but I personally think you should try to refrain yourself from taking the easy way out, for your own convenience, at other people’s expenses.
What’s your thought on this?