For Better For Worse

for good times and bad times i'll be on your side forever more. baca artikel pasal why couples suke berada dlm crisis. the article submits bahawa ia adalah berpunca dr stigma 'menghadapi kesusahan bersama akan mengukuhkan perhubungan'. partly, ini adalah betol. tapi when the r'ship is based ataupon dipertahankan atas sbb pnh mengharungi kesusahan bersama --> adalah sgt wrong. one story yg die analogikan ialah this girl, S, her bro eksiden n died. mase to J, baru je jd bf die of 3 months. tp J, sgt swit n sgt caring, was there for her, tolong die hadapi trauma tu etc etc yg kite bole imaginela. so then, after S dah ok, die sedar yg die bukannye suke betol kat J, tapi simply sbb J dah bersama2 die lalui saat2 plg sukar dlm idop die. but then bile S jumpe M, M buat die start fresh. lupe mase silam yg sedey, unlike bile S dgn J, die kept teringat pasal her bro's death sbb J was part of it. as much as kite mau kesian sama J, it is also unfair kalo S tros suke J for the wrong reason, i.e. J was there for her bukan saje for better.. but mostly sbb for worse. so the article suggestsla yg facing crisis together could be sesuatu yg bole strenghten the r'ship, tp ia tak sepatutnye menjadi sbb utama. sukung. bile ade someone yg kite sayang n trust n yakin n kite akan be there for die for better for worse, kite mesti expect him/ her to do the same. n by doing so, die mesti score. am percaya kalu die tak berada bersama/ bantu/ at least care pasal kite punye masa2 'worse' tuh, then die mmg bukan the one la. sape sanggup dgn org yg sepatutnye care pasal kite, tp tak tunjuk langsung? how could u ask me to feel the thing u never show? eheh. tp, if that someone buat mende2 tuh utk kite, ia mestilah bukan menjadi penyebab kite mau tros bersama2 die. kite dan die mestila menjadi the main attraction/ sebab. bukan anasir2 lain. ok ok.. then pulak.. camne nak tahu yg that someone adalah someone yg bole be there both for good times (which is easy).. and yg tgh dibcgkan skang ni, masa2 bad. cthnye tetibe diognised with cancer ke.. bisnes jatuh ke, kene saman kat ct ke, eksiden ke etc etc. camne nak tahu? sbb kekdg di awal r'ship, true colours takkan nampak, awal2, mesti die tunjuk yg baik2 saje, yg caring2 side saje. ntahla, this cannot be answeredla kot. u just got to trust ur antena. jewel soh percaya intuition 'cause it will lead us in the right direction. will he/ she be there for better for worse? we'll never know kot, sampaila mase tu tibe. will u be there for me, dear? i trust my intuition, n i believe in u.. eheh.